I am a 41 year old mother of 5. (now 4) I lost my seventeen year old son, Eddie October of 2006. My son had lived with me for 16years and then against my wishes and a judge's better judgement he went to live with my ex. He was their one year and a day and died in the home of my ex's girlfriend from a drug overdose. My ex. was incarcerated at the time of my son's death; which I had only found out 1-2 weeks before my son died. So many people dropped the ball. My son at the time of my ex's incarceration should have been returned to me. His biological mother. He was not an adult. No one even called me to tellme my ex was in jail. There are many rumors my ex was dealing cocaine. The house was a hangout for many Butler teens. But what child is going to rat out on people who allow them to party and hang out in there home.
I could not even see my son until a week after he passed. Because some idiot bailed my ex out of jail and he went to the court to hold up the funeral. To make a long story short I was I was permitted to proceed with the funeral arrangements and cemetery that I had chosen; but this did not erase the aching and seperation from my son for a week.
My ex had the nerve to call that day after court; crying begging to be allowed to have his own wake. I did not want to give him a single thing after the misery he put me through; but I allowed him to his own wake so not have to deal with him or any obnoxious teens who saw my son the day he passed and commented to a teacher how bad he looked and how his lips looked blue; yet they did nothing.
I was unable to pay the funeral expense and am in collection with 18% interest accruing. My son still has no headstone because the money I put down as a deposit was taken and put toward the funeral cost (same company) so they took that because I had not made a substantial pymt.
My husband is out of work and has been since 6/2007 when he fell off a ladder and broke his heel in two places. He recently had a second surgery in March. I just can not get a break. I am in collection all over the place and my land lord took us to court last week for eviction. My rent is astronomical and I don't even live in some luxurious house. It was built in the 70's and is only three bedrooms. I cant save up anything to move because my rent is 2400.00
My landlord is Aaron Osmond from Utah. Guess what his aunt is Marie Osmond. I wish I had a way to contact her and let her know how inconsiderate and money hungry her nephew is. Would not go over to well for that perfect american family would it?
I don't know what anyone would or could help me with. Payments to Ferguson's Funeral Home in Vernon, NJ on behalf of my son Edward M. Castellano would be appreciated more than I could ever say. You can verify my story by googling his obituary I believe. It was in the Bergen Record and another paper the Herald I think.
None of my family really can help me. My parents divorced years ago and my dad remarried with a whole new family; young kids even. My mom just about can pay her own bills. My eldest sister is mother of 5 and does not work and her husband leaves for Iraq in June. My second oldest sister lives in Canada and does not bother with any of her family really. My middle sister is in NY state and her husband is out of work for a couple of years now and my sister closest to me has three of her own and her own financial issues. I thought about doing a web page and asking anyone to send any thing dollars even to the Funeral Home directly; but I don't know how to go about that.
I have always done what I can to help others. Donating clothes; working at a food pantry; and serving meals to the poor; teaching religous ed. I do work in a small community hospital in Sussex County I am also in college. The pay is not like it is for larger hospitals and I barely live paycheck to paycheck. I just need a break; for once in my life a break. I don't want to go on and on; but I could. I have had an abusive marrage (my first "the ex") I have lost a home (my first) and I have lost a child. Can anyone help me.
